10 Rules for Gay Dating

Saturday, August 22 | posted in | 2 comments


Of course many of you gay men have been on dates but maybe there's a reason they aren't working out and you're still single. So here's some rules to keep in mind when dating in the gay community. Its a jungle out there and someone has on that leopard thong, TRUST AND BELIEVE!


#1 Start As Friends

You need a foundation somewhere. A friendship is an excellent foundation. Its a way to start on a level that makes sure you two are both comfortable and don't have any ties to each other just yet.

#2 Know Your Expectations
It is always good to know what you are looking for. Even before you start dating. That is a big reason why we date in the first place, to figure out what we want. Before you get too far into the relationship you two need to establish what is is you are looking for from this. Is it just friends with benefits? is it something casual? or is it something serious? what does it mean to you?



#3 Just Say No To Drugs
One big thing that kills a relationship is drug abuse. If you are dating a heavy user....end it!
#4 Beware of Control Freaks And Clingy People
Needy people can drain the life out of you and the relationship. If you are the clingy one...get help! You will never have a healthy successful relationship that way.

#5 Avoid Straight Guys
If you are falling for a straight guy, its not going to work out you may even get hurt in the whole ordeal. Sure you hear that whole thing about "turning someone out" but come on there are so many gay men in this world.
#6 Have Something In Common Other Than Being Gay
You have to be able to enjoy spending time together and have something to talk about. Yes opposites attract but you need something in common if you want your relationship to last.

#7 Observe Phases Of A Healthy Relationship
Don't rush into a relationship. Your relationship should evolve through a series of phases. What are the phases you ask!?

  1. attraction
  2. acquaintance
  3. learning
  4. friendship
  5. exploration
  6. intimacy
  7. lovers
#8 Find Out About Past Relationships
In the learning phase of your relationship you should find out about the other persons past lovers. Make sure that their exes have indeed gotten the AXE! If you are the rebound guy, then don't expect a whole lot. If they are still in love with their ex then you should expect to get hurt eventually.

#9 Sex
Sex isn't everything in the relationship but it is definitely a part of it. A healthy relationship can exist without sex. But your relationship cannot exist without intimacy. So make sure you are absolutely ready for the sex.

#10 Monitor Your Relationship
On a regular basis you need to evaluate things and determine what is best for you! Are you happy? Is your partner happy? Is every ones needs being met? Do you both still have the same expectations? If things are starting to go wrong you need to sit down with him and talk it out, pin point the problem. COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

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Jason Howard Green
on October 23, 2008 at 2:23 AM  

Hey Noble,
I'm loving the site (I'll be adding you as a link to The J Spot). Great advice in this post also. My partner and I have been together for 12 years - and it's because we adhered to most of this steps.

Just some adds.
#2 Know you expectations and know your boundaries. And adhere to them.
#4 Beware of control freaks and clingy people. And don't be one yourself.
#5 Avoid straight boys. This should be obvious - but we still keep chasing the. Will we ever learn.
And I'll add #11 - pay attention. When he/she shows you who they are, believe them.

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iDELLA*BELLE!
on August 27, 2009 at 2:38 AM  

wooo i had to go post this on www.thugstatus.com I SOOOOOO LOVED THIS. SO MANY PEOPLE INCLUDING MYSELF HAVE TO GO BY THIS GREAT LIST OF INFORMATION!

*DELLA!

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